Not too long ago I read in an article that the famous author Kipling, best known for the
Jungle Book, made a fortune from his writing career. One day a reporter said to him that it was once calculated that from his books he made $100/word. So, he gave him a $100 and asked him to give him one of his hundred-dollar words. Mr. Kipling took the bill, put it in his pocket, looked at the reporter and simply said: "THANKS".
"THANKS" is, indeed, a valuable word-but not just because of the powerful meaning it conveys; it is a word far more rarely spoken in sincerity than one would think. And strangely enough, ingratitude is a persistent epidemic in our society, even in the midst of overabundance. How can we get so much and yet thank so little?
My husband and I recently attended a couple of graduation parties, and birthday celebrations. I was pleasantly surprised to receive thank you notes from a few of the 'gift recipients'. One of them (actually the youngest of them) even took the extra step and wrote a few very thoughtful quotes, besides her message; she wrote: 1) cheerful people are like sunshine, cheering up everybody around them 2) wrinkles should merely indicate where smiles have been and 3) of all the things you wear-your expression is most important.....those quotes were taken from the little book which was part of her gift..which made it a more personal note. A lot of people don't say thanks. It's implied, isn't it? But I remember a friend telling me why she decided to withdraw her name from the family Christmas gift swap-nobody ever thanked her for her presents. I hear this from many people. I enjoy cards, sending them and receiving them. Whenever I am in a gift shop I buy thank you cards and keep a supply at hand, my husband still writes them too.We send dozens of them out and never know what the recipients do with them, but it makes me feel good and I have come to appreciate the importance of this tradition/etiquette.
Maybe the reason more people don't send them is because they don't know what to say, but that is not the point. It doesn't matter how eloquently you can state your gratitude, just the simple act of saying thanks is enough. When we take a moment to express our appreciation, we acknowlege the efforts of others who give generously when they don't have to. When we do it, we bless them and blessings come back to us twofold.
In the Bible, Luke 17:11-19, Jesus and his disciples were travelling to Jerusalem on the border of Samaria and Galilee when they encountered ten men suffering from leprosy. These men stood at a distance because they were 'unclean'. The were not allowed to go to the Temple or live with their families, they were forced to stay outside the city. As they stood at a distance they called to Jesus: "Master, have mercy on us". Jesus responded to their pleas and healed them from a distance. He told them to go and show themselves to the priests in Jerusalem, and the 10 men were completely healed of their leprosy on the way. What makes the rest of the story interesting is that the only one who came back to THANK Jesus was a Samaritan. He praised God in a loud voice and threw himself at Jesus' feet, and thanked him. Samaritans were looked down by the Jews of that day, and were considered unclean and inferior in spiritual standing and they were excluded from temple worship. Yet, when this Samaritan figured out that God had healed him, he came back. The Jews, who would now be in good standing with their communities and temple worship, since they were cleansed, were too eager to get their religious status back that,they missed God Himself. So, Jesus asked the disciples, probably with great sadness, "were not all 10 cleansed? Where are the other 9? Was no one found to return and give praise to God except this foreigner"? (V17-18) When Jesus healed these men, not only did he give them physical health-he also restored their independence, because they could now re-enter society and earn a living to feed themselves and their families. When we sincerely thank someone, we are acknowledging the fact that the person did something for us which we did not do for ourselves. A confession like this is sometimes an assault to our pride. That is often why we don't do it-we don't like admitting that we need others. Jesus did not revoke the healing from the other nine lepers because they failed to thank him, but when we take God's gifts and run, never confessing our gratitude and dependence, we miss out. When we choose to live with continuous gratitude we receive an intimate friendship with the Giver Himself.
Same thing applies today. We must actively thank the people who make or have made a difference in our lives. We should establish a daily habit of noticing the gifts and grace that we receive. Everyone needs a kind word of appreciation, so by all means, take time to write thank-you notes. Do it and see what happens.
Happy 4th of July and Happy Independence Day--as we thank those who made it possible for us. Let it not be forgotten that America has fought in more wars for the freedom of other peoples than any other nation in history. America's history is one that we can be proud of.