Wednesday, January 30, 2019

Make everyday count

Do we make everyday count or do we waste it on trivial and petty things such as hate, bitterness, un-forgiveness, quarrelling,  complaining and other actions that make our day miserable? If so, why continue to do that and not work on making a change? It is difficult in the beginning but if we persist it can be accomplished.
  1. Appreciate every moment and take from it everything that you possibly can, for you may never be able to experience it again
  2. Believe in yourself, for if you don't believe in yourself, no one else will believe in you either
  3. Talk to people you have never talked to before and actually  LISTEN
  4. Everything happens for a reason and not by chance. Everything occurs to test the limits to our souls (illness, injury, love, stupidity, lost love). Without these small tests life would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to NOWHERE
  5. If someone hurts you, betrays you or breaks your heart, FORGIVE THEM (I know it can be very hard to do). They have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to who you open your heart to
  6. If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you, but because they are teaching you to love and opening your heart and eyes to things you would have never seen or felt without them
  7. Everyday look for your blessings (they are there)
  8. Don't despair over a relationship gone bad. There are people who have never known what it is like to love and be loved in return
God is the giver of life and he created us to live life to its fullest!
Go out and live it!!

God bless you in every way!

Tuesday, January 22, 2019

Words to ponder

This morning I happened to watch a sermon by Josheph Prince, he is a young pastor in Singapore..It is very important for us to find rest, be still and stop worrying. The more we worry about things and our families, the more bad things can happen. He was saying that when he was so worried about his child NOT getting sick, the child was sick all the time. When he stopped worrying so much, the things that he used to worry about never happened. Being worry free doesn't mean being neglectful or uncaring, it simply means we can focus on other more productive things, and not waste energy on "what if"imagined things....

Below is a list of words to ponder, and I find it interesting that the most destructive one is:WORRY
  • The most destructive word: Worry
  • The greatest Joy: Giving
  • The greatest Loss: Loss of Self-respect
  • The most satisfying work: Helping Others
  • The ugliest personality Trait: Selfishness
  • The most endangered species: Dedicated Leaders
  • Our greatest natural resource: Our youth
  • Our greatest "shot in the arm": Encouragement
  • The greatest problem to overcome: Fear
  • The most effective sleeping pill: Peace of Mind
  • The most crippling failure disease: Excuses
  • The most powerful force in life: Love
  • The most dangerous pariah: A gossiper
  • The world's most incredible computer: The brain
  • The worst thing to be without: Hope
  • The deadliest weapon: The tongue
  • The two most power-filled words: "I Can"
  • The greatest asset: Faith
  • The most worthless emotion: Self-pity
  • The most beautiful attire: SMILE
  • The most prized possession: Integrity
  • The most contagious spirit: Enthusiasm
Let's make it a habit to live by the positive words, rather than the negative ones.









Monday, January 14, 2019

Kids and Thank You notes

While I was browsing thru the December issue of one of the magazines, I came across an article with the headline: Kids & Thank-You Notes..The article can apply to any time of the year and not just Christmas, and any age group. However, since  we give and receive presents at Christmas time, the article was very appropriate.

Personally, I don't recall my mother teaching me to send "Thank You" cards, or at what point I started writing them, but I do, and I enjoy it. I enjoy picking out the cards and hopefully it makes the recipient feel good too. It seems though that now days very few people acknowledge a present. For example, when you mail them a present, you never know if they received it or not, because you never hear from them. It is not their fault, I don't think they are being taught what to say and do. I hear many complaints from people I meet, and especially grandparents and relatives, about this subject. My generation grew up with learning the etiquette of things, Dear Abbey, Emily Post, and Amy Vanderbilt. Today, I don't think anybody really cares about these things anymore. Everyone is glued to their phone and Social Media. Everyone is "busy".....our parents were not "busy"? of course they were, but their priorities were different and their respect for things and people were different then they are today.

Here are some tips from Mariah Bruehl, author of Real Life Rules! A young Person's guide to self discovery, Big Ideas and Healthy Habits. Her advice is that you don't need to keep nagging your teen to put pen to paper to show gratitude for a gift. Three words that will liberate you are: Know Your Audience. There is no "one-size-fits-all" approach to Thank You Notes. "The form of communication should fit the relationship and how the person communicates with the gift-giver." If your daughter and her uncle are constantly on Instagram, a Boomerang of her putting on her new Beats headphones with a caption about how much she loves them, is totally appropriate. If your son is frequently texting Grandma and Grandpa, why not have him send a selfie with his new video game in hand and a note about how he can't wait to invite a bunch of friends over to play?

Whether the text is typed, handwritten or dictated, make sure it is genuine.....which, I guess, could be tough if your teen didn't actually like the gift. But remember, whether it is the perfect present or not, the gift-giver went through a lot of effort to get it, and that is something to consider.

If we start with the young ones, and teach them to use the words "please" and "thank you" more often, the world will be a better place!




  

Attitude is Everything!

If we could only think that way all the time, we would feel so much better.

I woke up one morning, looked in the mirror,
and noticed I had only three hairs on my head.
'Well, I said , I think I will braid my hair today.'
So I did and I had a wonderful day.

The next day I woke up, looked in the mirror,
and I saw that I had only two hairs on my head.
'H-M-M, I said, I think I will part my hair down 
the middle today.'
So I did and I had a grand day.

The next day I woke up, looked in the mirror,
and noticed that I had only one hair on my head.
'Well, I said, today I am going to wear my hair in
a pony tail.'
So I did and had a funny, funny day.

The next day I woke up, looked in the mirror,
and noticed that there wasn't a single hair on my head.
'YAY!' I exclaimed I don't have to fix my hair today!'

Author Unknown

Now, that's looking at the bright side of things. When life gives us lemons
we can turn them into lemonade! Hope this brought a smile to your face!
Make it a GREAT Day!

Wednesday, January 2, 2019

Have You ever wondered why we celebrate New Year's on January 1st?

We just watched billions of people around the world come together to ring in the New Year. They bid farewell to 2018 and welcomed 2019 with fireworks, prayer services and other festivities!

Galen and I watched some of the firework displays which were SPECTACULAR! They seem to be getting fancier and fancier every year. Fireworks in Dubai, were displayed at Burj Kalifa, the world's tallest building, and they kept going for almost 15 minutes. In Hong Kong they were at Victoria Harbor, which is an incredibly beautiful place, and we had the good fortune to have visited in 1999. The ones in Australia, were held at Sydney Harbor, Sydney being their largest city, and they were also amazing! Every country had the displays in one of their major cities or capitals, as I am sure most of you watched. Of course, every year we have our own festivities in New York city where I think  about 2 million people came together and endured the cold and rainy weather.

When I was a little girl, in Istanbul, Turkey, I remember we used to celebrate the New Year with family and friends. We would play cards and different games, waiting for midnight. We had lots of good food, desserts and always a variety of dry nuts, dry figs, apricots and dates. That was tradition, among some other traditional dishes. When midnight came around everyone would hug and kiss and wish everyone good wishes. All over town you could hear noises of firearms being fired in the air (which obviously was not the smartest thing to do), and people banging on pots an pans outside their front doors. We did it too. I believe this tradition was the belief that noise drives away evil spirits, misfortune and bad luck. Then my mother had us go outside, in the morning, with a pomegranate and before coming into the house we would smash it by our front door. This, I believe was to bring into the house and the new year, prosperity, good luck and good health. Funny, how every culture has different traditions. I wonder if they still do some of these things, it was a long time ago.

But now let's look at the question about why we celebrate New Year's on January 1.

Two thousand years before the birth of Christ, ancient Mesopotamia started this celebration, but it was not on January 1st. Babylonians would celebrate in March, following the first new moon, following the vernal equinox. The new date of January 1 took place 45 BC after the Roman Emperor Julius Ceasar decided to forgo the Lunar calendar cycle and instead follow the Solar year, like the Egyptians did at that time. Under the "Julian" Calendar the year totaled 365 days and Ceasar also added a day to February, every four years. But some part of the known world still celebrated in March and some on December 25. It wasn't until 1582 when Pope Gregory XIII proposed a new calendar and the Gregorian calendar went into effect, and that is what most countries now use.

However, many cultures around the world still hold their New Year's observances based on their religious beliefs and celebrate the start of the year at different times.      

1)  China and other Asian Countries including Indonesia, and Vietnam, celebrate the Lunar New Year, also known as Spring Festival. The date of the Lunar year changes each year, but it always falls on the new moon between January 21 and February 20. Each New Year is named after one of the twelve animals in the Zodiac. 2018 was the Year of the Dog, and 2019 is the Year of the Pig.

2)   Israel....Jewish people around the world celebrate the New Year in September or October during Rosh Hashanah. They have many traditions that include eating certain foods, like dates, leeks, beets and pomegranates, and each food holds a special meaning.

3)    Persia...Iran..Nowruz  at the start of Spring is known as the Persian New Year and is one of history's most ancient celebrations dating back 4000 years. Families come together and give presents, and wearing new clothes is a MUST. A major part of the holiday is a deep cleaning about three weeks before the vernal equinox. Homes are cleared of clutter to make room for a fresh start.
My best friend from College was Jewish from Persia and her family celebrated both holidays.

4)    India......Diwali is called the festival of Lights which marks the beginning of the New Year and is enjoyed by millions of Hindus, Sikhs, and Jains all over the world. It coincides with the Hindu New Years, lasts for 5 days and is held between Mid October and Mid November, depending on the Hindu calendar. Traditionally, homes are cleaned and new clothes are worn for the festival. The families get together for prayers and share sweets and presents. This holiday symbolizes the spiritual victory of light over darkness, good over evil and knowledge over ignorance. One of our very dear Indian neighbors celebrates this holiday and it is beautiful to see the many lights and candles displayed in their home.

5)   Finally, there is one more celebration from India and that is the Boishakh which is celebrated by Bengali people. It takes place on April 14th, on the first day of the Bengali Calendar. This is the beginning of the harvest season. They perform cultural performances by singing, dancing and reciting from their sacred book.

So, there you have it...there may be more, but this is all I could come up with as I was pondering the question. I wanted to share it with you all and I hope you enjoyed it.

Happy, Healthy and Prosperous 2019!